Wednesday, October 31, 2007

On a Speech by Sojourner Truth

Just read a speech by Sojourner Truth, ‘Ain’t I a Woman?’ that was made at a Women’s Convention in response to the comments of some men who talked about how man was superior to woman because he was stronger and had a higher intellect(?), and because Christ was born a man and not a woman and because of the ‘sin’ of the first woman. Awesome, awesome speech. Let me quote.

I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain't I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man - when I could get it - and bear the lash as well! And ain't I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen them most all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother's grief, none but Jesus heard me! And ain't I a woman?”

“Then they talk about this thing in the head; what's this they call it? [member of audience whispers, "intellect"] That's it, honey. What's that got to do with women's rights or negroes' rights? If my cup won't hold but a pint, and yours holds a quart, wouldn't you be mean not to let me have my little half measure full?”

“Then that little man in black there, he says women can't have as much rights as men, 'cause Christ wasn't a woman! Where did your Christ come from? Where did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothing to do with Him.”

“If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these women together ought to be able to turn it back, and get it right side up again! And now they is asking to do it, the men better let them.”

While modern research has shown that men and women do not differ in their strengths and intellects, I had yet not been able to find a complete answer to this problem, “Why have all the Gods, messiahs, prophets up till now been all men?” Thanks Sojourner, for answering one half. Let me state the second half.

Consider a girl belonging to a middle class family; let’s say, a thousand years before now? Now this girl has prodigious talent. She might be an exceptional musician, or a dancer, or a thinker and philosopher. If she is a talented singer, or musician or dancer, how far do you think her talent would carry her? If she is lucky she would only be singing for her husband. Others, if they are beautiful, would be taken to the king’s court or thrown in public houses to entertain the people. If she is more of the intellectual types, do you think she would be allowed to study, even if she were ten times as brilliant as any boy? Do you think she would be allowed to speak in public and proclaim her views? Never. Forget a thousand years ago, how many of you can say that your own mother did not have to sacrifice her dreams because of social pressures to have a family?

Religion preaches woman to be subservient, because religion itself is created by man. Men tell them that they are inferior to them and they accept, thinking it to be the word of God. I once had an argument with one of my friends. She was insisting that women are inferior to men because her religious text says so. She said that God has made the brain of woman smaller than man, which was also explained by her religious text. It is amazing how far down man can stoop to ensure that woman remains his slave.

Ultimately, there are only two races in this world- man and woman. One the aggressor, and the other subdued, suppressed, tormented everywhere. Even today, in the modern world? Well, it has been observed that even if the couple is highly educated, the wife may have to suffer physical or mental abuse at some point of their marital life. Speaking of Indian society, the husband is usually the dominant partner and usually makes all the financial decisions. The final say on the subject of marriage or education (this among the less educated people) of the children is the father’s. If the couple can’t have children, then it is blamed on the wife. Sometimes the husband does not even deign to take the test! I could go on and on like this, but I think I have made my point.

Monday, October 29, 2007

Honeymoon Travels ;)

Honeymoon Travels was a really entertaining movie about six couples off to have the honeymoon of their lives. However this is not going to be a film review, 'cos I was particularly interested in one special couple and this blog is going to be about them. They interested me even more because their story was slammed by almost everyone of the viewers as being too fantastical. You guessed it pal, I am talking about the superhero couple.

Now, this was a couple who had never had a single fight in all their days of courting/ friendship. That in itself was hard to swallow. But why did the director have to bring in the superhuman part? 'Cos that really made the whole thing indigestible. Or did it? Somehow I feel that their being super-heroes makes complete sense. I think that what the director wants to say is that there can not be a single couple in the world who has never had a fight, or who has such perfect synchronization in their actions and thoughts as these two had. So to expect that one will never have arguments with one's spouse is pure fantasy and one must learn to accept this. Only a divine/superhuman couple can have such a state of bliss, not us mortals. So lower your expectations a bit, people! Fights and arguments are going to be part of your love life, but how soon you get over them and make up are probably gonna determine the state of your marital bliss! Time to kick those egos out the window, I suppose! :)

Saturday, October 27, 2007

Hope

Life gives us many setbacks, tosses us around, tortures us till even tears become a luxury. We curse her and call her names. We beg her to just let us die if she hates us so much. But she just goes on as if our miseries don't matter to her at all. Just when we have given ourselves up to a life of pain and sorrow, suddenly one day the storm clears and lo, we are in the Promised Land! We realize that she has been our friend all along; we were just too short-sighted to see it.

Whether in love or friendship, in business or personal relations, it always helps one to remember that nothing is permanent, however much we may(or not) want it to be, or however hopeless it may make us feel. There's always an end to everything- to both happiness and sorrow. So if we are experiencing sorrow today, we might cheer up because tomorrow may bring us joy. And if we are happy, we should sober down and think of investing in some love, for the rainy day.

There's this prayer that my father always quotes to me when I am down and it never fails to bring life into perspective:
'God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we can not change, courage to change the things we can, and wisdom to know the difference.'
I hope it will do as much for others too. :)

Friday, October 19, 2007

Mom Rocks

One of the few things that can never be duplicated in this world is the taste of one's mother's cooking. I have tried numerous times and no dish is the same as it would have been had my mom but just touched it once. Last night I and my mom made one particular dish together, and man, it turned out so much better than when I make it on my own. I told her this and she just laughed it off. I wonder where mothers get it from!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

The First Post

Well, I suppose the first post must start off with a bang. But right now I am in no mood to write, even though when I thought of creating this blog, there were a million things I wanted to speak to you about. So this, here, is going to be the first post for this blog. May the Lord, God, be with us.